This really is a letter aimed at husbands and boyfriends, but should be read by women, too. Clear instructions for men on how to talk to women within a committed relationship. A chapter can be read in about five minutes. Each chapter has a description of a communication issue, (e.g., "Why I sometimes don't want sex," "What I really mean when I say we need to talk")followed by some straightforward advice from The Coach including what words to say if you're at a loss. This book is used by couples' therapists as a guide to communication. The following are comments from several husbands and boyfriends who have used the book in or out of therapy: "What a great idea A wife explains what women really mean and The Coach gives you the playbook " "This is the textbook for what to do when your wife or girlfriend says 'I'm FINE ' and you know she isn't; when she cries; when she avoids sex; when she says, 'We need to talk;' all those situations that used to make me squirm." This is a quick, entertaining read with very clear instructions.