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Intimacy Paradox : Personality - Donald S. Williamson

Intimacy Paradox


Paperback Published: 3rd July 2002
ISBN: 9781572308152
Number Of Pages: 305

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Although most people physically leave home by their early 20s, emotional separation from one's family is a more difficult process that can continue for a lifetime. Now available in paper for the first time, this acclaimed book addresses the struggle of adults to establish autonomy without sacrificing family connections. Donald S. Williamson presents personal authority therapy, an approach designed to simultaneously foster individual development and family-of-origin intimacy. Therapists are taken step by step through conducting individual, couple, and small group sessions that culminate in several sessions with each client and his or her parents. Writing with sensitivity and humor, the author demonstrates effective ways to help adult children construct new personal and family narratives, resolve intergenerational intimidation, and enjoy healthier, more equal relationships with parents and significant others.

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'This fascinating and provocative book reflects a wide and deep understanding of systems ideas. Williamson asks the question: 'How does one leave home emotionally and yet remain lovingly connected with one's family of origin?'...His is a thought-provoking and controversial view...full of humor and clinical nuggets as well as profound ideas.' - Monica McGoldrick, LCSW, PhD (h.c.) 'Any person who has ever seen or heard Don Williamson speak knows he is a master at melding his personal life with his theoretical and therapeutic work. In The Intimacy Paradox, Williamson has succeeded in writing what he does so well in his presentations. This book is the authoritative work on the concept of personal authority in the family system.' - Journal of Marital and Family Therapy 'An interesting, theoretically sophisticated, and useful guide.' - AFTA Newsletter 'Williamson is utterly persuasive when making the case that achieving wholeness of the self cannot be best built on separation of that self from the parents of origin... He makes his points in a context of respect for the client, the client's spouse, and the client's parents albeit a context that is open to play and humor and not taking itself too seriously. Williamson not too seriously does very serious work.' - Contemporary Psychology

Personal Authority Theory
Personal Authority in the Family System: An Overviewp. 3
The Intimacy Paradoxp. 3
The Questionp. 4
The Dilemmap. 5
Differentiation of Selfp. 6
Personal Authority in the Family System Introducedp. 7
Intergenerational Intimidationp. 8
Healthy Family Structure: A Matter of Timingp. 9
Humanization of the Parentp. 10
The Focus Is on the Primary Trianglep. 11
The Therapeutic Style in Personal Authority Workp. 12
Transgenerational Family Therapy: Some Distinctions in the Interest of Differentiationp. 14
The Role of Theory in Practicep. 19
A How-To Bookp. 20
Background Theoretical Assumptionsp. 23
Six Basic Assumptionsp. 23
Four Assumptions about Parents Underlying Personal Authority Workp. 30
Personal Authority: The Construct in Theoretical Contextp. 33
Language, Consciousness, and the Authority of Personal Authority Workp. 33
Personal Authority Work in the Context of Psychotherapy Theory in Generalp. 36
Personal Authority: The Theoretical Constructp. 38
Personal Authority Method: the Play's the Thing
Setting the Scene: Playful Interventions as a Method of Therapyp. 49
Personal Authority Family of Origin Work: A Script Notep. 49
Personal Authority Psychotherapy Practice in Contextp. 50
Personal Authority Work as Symbolic-Experiential and as Strategic Family Therapyp. 51
The Uses of Absurdityp. 52
Building the Set: The Ambience of the Therapeutic Process--Trembling on the Edgep. 55
Staging Notes: Four Assumptions about the Therapeutic Interactionp. 60
Auditioning and Casting: Background Preparations for the Conversations with Parentsp. 65
Production Notesp. 65
Screening, Selecting, and Assigning the New Client to a Small Family-of-Origin Groupp. 67
Black Out Sketches: The Group at Playp. 79
Playful Interventions, Assignments, and Perturbationsp. 79
Scenes from a Groupp. 84
The Rehearsal: Preparing the Client for Political Renegotiations with Parentsp. 103
Discoveryp. 103
Releasep. 104
Observationp. 106
Initiating Negotiationsp. 106
Preparing the Parentsp. 109
Corollary Conversationsp. 109
Preparation of the Agendap. 110
The Invitation to Parentsp. 111
Scheduling the Performance and Contract Negotiating with the Playersp. 115
Welcoming, Bonding, and Briefing the Parentsp. 115
The Ground Rules for the In-Office Conversationsp. 116
The Consultant Sits Down with the Client and the Parentsp. 118
A Matter of Timingp. 120
Writing the Script: The In-Office Agenda for the Primary Triangle--Part 1. The Parents Speakp. 125
Prologue: So What Is This Play About? The Parental Narrativep. 126
The Parents' Memoriesp. 127
The Parents' Reflectionsp. 140
Writing the Script: The In-Office Agenda for the Primary Triangle--Part 2. The Client Responds and the Consultant Reflectsp. 151
The Client's Declarationsp. 151
Crafting the Language for the Questionsp. 162
Epilogue: So What Was That All About? The Dynamics of the In-Office Consultationp. 163
Postscriptp. 166
Performing Outdoors: New Life at the Graveyard--Renegotiation with a Deceased Former Parentp. 171
Making the Tripp. 171
Detailed Agenda for Graveside Visit with a Deceased Parentp. 177
Compassion and Honor for the Deadp. 181
Production Problems: Limitations to the Methodp. 183
The Parents as a Source of Limitationsp. 183
The Client as a Source of Limitationsp. 187
Reluctance to Making Changes in Family Politicsp. 189
Personal Authority Contextual Issues
Personal Authority: The Personal Storyp. 195
The Town of Dungannonp. 195
The Familyp. 198
Illnessp. 199
Religionp. 200
Brave New Worldp. 201
On Returning to the Parental Homep. 202
Critical Incidents in Conversations at the Parental Homep. 204
Two Observations on the Workp. 211
Personal and Professional Authority in Professional Lifep. 213
The Future Lies Aheadp. 219
Personal Authority, Professional Authority, and Physical Healthp. 221
Mind, Emotion, and Physical Healthp. 222
The Further Implications of These Ideasp. 226
Reasons for Hesitancy to Change Health Education Practicesp. 233
Is Change Then Possible at All?p. 236
Personal Authority and Gender Differences: Typecastingp. 239
Introductionp. 240
Contributions of Feminismp. 241
Historical Perspective on Family and "Homelife"p. 243
A Gendered Perspectivep. 244
PAFS and Alpha Biasp. 250
Christopher's Storyp. 252
The Transgenerational Model and Murray Bowenp. 253
Barbara's Storyp. 257
Conclusionsp. 259
Beyond Personal Authorityp. 261
Falling in Love with the Futurep. 261
Personal Authority as Illusionp. 264
Personal Authority Research
The Personal Authority in the Family System Questionnaire: Assessment of Intergenerational Family Relationshipsp. 273
Key Conceptsp. 274
Questionnaire Developmentp. 276
Norms for the PAFS-Qp. 279
Reliabilityp. 279
Validityp. 280
Interpretation of PAFS-Q Scale Scoresp. 281
Clinical Applicationsp. 282
Research and Theory Applicationsp. 283
Summary and Future Workp. 285
Referencesp. 287
Indexp. 299
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ISBN: 9781572308152
ISBN-10: 157230815X
Series: The Guilford Family Therapy
Audience: Professional
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 305
Published: 3rd July 2002
Publisher: Guilford Publications
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 22.9 x 15.3  x 1.91
Weight (kg): 0.45