I allowed my loneliness to dictate what I allowed in my life. If and when I did allow a man in my life I put so much into him, I would lose myself, my self esteem, my own peace and happiness.I even allowed toxic girl friendships to dictate my life.I had to recognize abuse not only comes physical but also mentally from both men and women. Two marriages and many moons later I have finally reached a point where I refuse to allow loneliness to lower my standards in what I expect from a man or anyone more importantly what I expect from myself. Through poetry, I found the therapy I needed and now I want to share with you. I hope that you will enjoy.