I'm Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself

When you're a woman of a certain age, you are only promised that everything will get worse. But what if everything you've been told is a lie?

One of TIME's 100 Must-Reads of 2024

'A delight' The New York Times

'Delicious' Vogue

'Superb' Time

'Joyful, bold and liberating' Emma Gannon

Come to Paris, August 2021, when the City of Lights was still empty of tourists and a thirst for long-overdue pleasure gripped those who wandered its streets.

After New York City emptied out in March 2020, Glynnis MacNicol, aged forty-six, unmarried with no children, spent sixteen months alone in her tiny Manhattan apartment. The isolation was punishing. A year without touch. Women are warned of invisibility as they age, but this was an extreme loneliness no one can prepare you for. When the opportunity to sublet a friend's apartment in Paris arose, MacNicol jumped on it. Leaving felt less like a risk than a necessity.

What follows is a decadent, joyful, unexpected journey into one woman's pursuit of radical enjoyment.

The weeks in Paris are filled with friendship and food and sex. There is dancing on the Seine; a plethora of gooey cheese; midnight bike rides through empty Paris; handsome men; afternoons wandering through the empty Louvre; nighttime swimming in the ocean off a French island. And yes, plenty of nudity.

In the spirit of Nora Ephron and Deborah Levy (think Colette . . . if she'd had access to dating apps), I'm Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself is an intimate, insightful, powerful, and endlessly pleasurable memoir of an intensely lived experience whose meaning and insight expand far beyond the personal narrative. MacNicol is determined to document the beauty, excess, and triumph of a life that does not require permission.

The pursuit of enjoyment is a political act, both a right and a responsibility. Enjoying yourself-as you are-is not something the world tells you is possible, but it is.

Here's the proof.

About the Author

Glynnis MacNicol is the author of I'm Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself: One Woman's Pursuit of Pleasure in Paris.

Her previous memoir, No One Tells You This (S&S, 2018), was named one of the Best Books of 2018 by Esquire, the Financial Times, and the CBC, and was a 2019 New York Times 'Paperback Row' pick.

MacNicol hosted, and produced WILDER: A Reckoning with the Legacy of Laura Ingalls Wilder, for iHeart Media. It was an official Tribeca Festival 2023 Selection.

In 2021, she co-produced and story-edited iHeart Media's Under the Influence podcast, hosted by Jo Piazza. It's been named to multiple 'best of' lists.

She's written for The New York Times, The Guardian, The Cut, New York Daily News, Town & Country, The Daily Beast, GEN, and ELLE, among others.