Married for 54 happy years, Joel R. Davitz and Lois Leiderman Davitz know from experience that nothing sustains a marriage like shared interests, shared pleasures, shared joys. In short, fun. Too often couples lose sight of that simple truth, turning small conflicts into insurmountable problems, draining the happiness from their relationship-- and, by extension, from their lives. "Fun? But We're Married!", the Davitzes lighthearted and loving blueprint for wedded bliss, explains the secrets of a healthy, happy marriage.
Not only experts from personal experience, the two Ph.D. professors with over 30 years of experience at Teachers College, Columbia University have gleaned insights from exhaustive research into relationships and the reasons they flourish or fail. Problems will inevitably arise. Couples must handle their disagreements productively, without the residue of ill will. Fun? But We're Married! shows how. The Davitzes describe all the common pitfalls that threaten relationships, and how to avoid them.
They also reveal, through examples from their own blissful life together, the wonderful, enriching nature of marriage when approached with equal parts of respect and irreverence. It is not a business arrangement. It is a life choice, made out of a unique love shared between two people who, at the most basic level, have fun together. Fun? But We're Married! teaches techniques for maintaining that feeling as the relationship evolves.
Including a self-study guide designed for couples to give open and honest responses as a basis for discussing their marriage, Fun? But We're Married! offers spouses an opportunity to remember the reasons they said, "I do", and to appreciate the simple pleasures of the most important relationship in their lives.