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Why is it that the relationships we care about most - those with our intimate partners - often seem doomed to fail? Why do we feel compelled to punish those closest to us who love and appreciate our real qualities? In ""Fear of Intimacy"", the authors bring almost 40 years of clinical experience to bear in challenging the usual ways of thinking about couples and families. They argue that relationships fail not for the commonly cited reasons, but because psychological defences formed in childhood act as a barrier to closeness in adulthood. A wide range of cross-generational case studies and powerful personal accounts illustrate how the ""fantasy bond"", a once-useful but now destructive form of self-parenting, jeopardizes meaningful attachments. Written in clear, jargon-free language, this book shows how therapists can help identify and overcome the messages of the internal ""voice"" that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. Related issues such as interpersonal ethics and the role of stereotyping are also discussed. The authors' innovative approach should be of interest to therapists and couples alike.
The Challenge of Intimate Relationships
Why Relationships Fail
An Ethical Perspective: Human Rights Issues in Personal Relationships
The Ideal Couple Relationship
Characteristics of the Ideal Family
Psychodynamics of Relationships
Inwardness: Self-Protective Patterns That Restrict Emotional Transactions Between Partners
Remedial Procedures: Experiences That Affect Inward Patterns in the Couple and Family
The Fantasy Bond in Couple Relationships
Withholding in Couple and Family Relationships
Countering the Inner Voice: Methods and Theory
Voices Affecting Intimacy
The Therapeutic Process in Couples Therapy
A Pilot Study Applying Voice Therapy With Four Couples: Clinical Material From a Series of Specialized Group Discussions
Transference, the Therapeutic Alliance, and Love
About the Authors
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ISBN: 9781557987204 ISBN-10: 1557987203 Audience:
Number Of Pages: 358 Published: 1st January 1999 Publisher: American Psychological Association Country of Publication: US Dimensions (cm): 24.8 x 17.1
Weight (kg): 0.73