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Fear of Intimacy - Robert W. Firestone

Paperback Published: 1st January 1999
ISBN: 9781557987204
Number Of Pages: 358

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Why is it that the relationships we care about most - those with our intimate partners - often seem doomed to fail? Why do we feel compelled to punish those closest to us who love and appreciate our real qualities? In ""Fear of Intimacy"", the authors bring almost 40 years of clinical experience to bear in challenging the usual ways of thinking about couples and families. They argue that relationships fail not for the commonly cited reasons, but because psychological defences formed in childhood act as a barrier to closeness in adulthood. A wide range of cross-generational case studies and powerful personal accounts illustrate how the ""fantasy bond"", a once-useful but now destructive form of self-parenting, jeopardizes meaningful attachments. Written in clear, jargon-free language, this book shows how therapists can help identify and overcome the messages of the internal ""voice"" that fosters distortions of the self and loved ones. Related issues such as interpersonal ethics and the role of stereotyping are also discussed. The authors' innovative approach should be of interest to therapists and couples alike.

Acknowledgmentsp. vii
Prefacep. ix
Introductionp. 3
Foundationsp. 11
The Challenge of Intimate Relationshipsp. 13
Why Relationships Failp. 33
An Ethical Perspective: Human Rights Issues in Personal Relationshipsp. 53
The Ideal Couple Relationshipp. 77
Characteristics of the Ideal Familyp. 99
Psychodynamics of Relationshipsp. 121
Inwardness: Self-Protective Patterns That Restrict Emotional Transactions Between Partnersp. 123
Remedial Procedures: Experiences That Affect Inward Patterns in the Couple and Familyp. 143
The Fantasy Bond in Couple Relationshipsp. 163
Withholding in Couple and Family Relationshipsp. 181
Menp. 193
Womenp. 207
Countering the Inner Voice: Methods and Theoryp. 225
Voices Affecting Intimacyp. 227
The Therapeutic Process in Couples Therapyp. 245
A Pilot Study Applying Voice Therapy With Four Couples: Clinical Material From a Series of Specialized Group Discussionsp. 271
Transference, the Therapeutic Alliance, and Lovep. 301
Referencesp. 315
Author Indexp. 341
Subject Indexp. 347
About the Authorsp. 357
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ISBN: 9781557987204
ISBN-10: 1557987203
Audience: Professional
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 358
Published: 1st January 1999
Publisher: American Psychological Association
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 24.8 x 17.1  x 2.5
Weight (kg): 0.73