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Fathers Who Fail : Shame and Psychopathology in the Family System - Melvin R. Lansky

Fathers Who Fail

Shame and Psychopathology in the Family System

Hardcover Published: 1st October 1992
ISBN: 9780881631050
Number Of Pages: 270

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Despite the burgeoning literature on the role of the father in child development and on fathering as a developmental stage, surprisingly little has been written about the psychiatrically impaired father. In Fathers Who Fail: Shame and Psychopathology in the Family System, Melvin Lansky, a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and family therapist, remedies this glaring lacuna in the literature. Drawing on contemporary psychoanalysis, family systems theory, and the sociology of conflict, he delineates the spectrum of psychopathological predicaments that undermine the ability of the father to be a father. Out of his sensitive integration of the intrapsychic and intrafamilial contexts of paternal failure emerges a richly textured portrait of psychiatrically impaired fathers, of fathers who fail.
This portrait revolves around the dynamics of narcissistic vulnerability, shame, and humiliation in family systems. For Lansky, shame is "the veiled and silent companion of the narcissistic injury of men who see themselves as having failed in the paternal role," and such shame must be understood not only intrapsychically, but in terms of the regulatory mechanisms and defensive processes through which the family, as a system, maintains its narcissistic equilibrium. In explicating the role of shame as the master regulatory emotion of the sense of self in relation to others, Lansky masterfully synthesizes an array of heretofore discrete perspectives: Heinz Kohut's emphasis on shame as regulatory emotion ensuring continuity of self experience, Helen Block Lewis's understanding of the relationship between unacknowledged shame and rage, Melanie Klein's insights into the role of projective defenses within the family, and recent sociological contributions to the role of shame in conflict escalation. Lansky welds these and other viewpoints into an overarching perspective that situates the psychopathology of impaired fathers within the relational dynamics of the entire family system, including the nuclear family, the extended family, and the family over generations. By locating the impaired father's narcissistic vulnerability within a framework of intrafamilial conflict and disequilibrium, he is able to show how paternal shame both defends against, and represents the end-stage of, the breakdown of family bonds that previously contained paternal dysfunction.
Lansky's probing discussion of narcissistic equilibrium in the family system enables him to chart the natural history common to the symptomatic impulsive actions of impaired fathers. He then considers specific manifestations of paternal dysfunction within this shared framework of heightened familial conflict and the failure of intrafamilial defenses to contain shame. Domestic violence, suicide, the intensification of trauma, posttraumatic nightmares, catastrophic reactions in organic brain syndrome, and the murder of a spouse are among the major "symptoms" that he explores. In each instance, Lansky carefully sketches the progression of vulnerability and turbulence from the father's personality, to the family system, and thence to the symptomatic eruption in question. In his concluding chapter, Lansky comments tellingly on the unconscious obstacles - on the part of both patients and therapists - to treating impaired fathers. These obstacles cut across different clinical modalities, underscoring the need for multimodal responses to fathers who fail.
Fathers Who Fail cuts across disciplinary boundaries with the authority of a versatile senior clinician whose experience of several decades has convinced him that complex psychopathology cannot yield to any single clinical modality. Bringing within his purview the conceptual and methodological problems of collecting data about fathers and fathering, the personality of impaired fathers, the family systems that sustain and fail them, and the impact of paternal dysfunction on other family members, Lansky speaks in one integrative voice to all mental health professionals who wrestle with the individual, familial, and social dimensions of dysfunctional fathering. A landmark in the psychiatric, psychoanalytic, and family therapy literatures, Fathers Who Fail will be required reading as well for sociologists, family systems theorists, developmental researchers, and lay readers intent on grasping the widespread dilemmas and all-too-frequent tragedies of fatherhood in our time.

"Fathers Who Fail is an elegant exposition of one of the cardinal issues facing American families today: the role of the father in the origins and dynamics of family violence, including self-destructive behavior of family members. Lansky writes in a clinically unique way. His deep understanding of family dynamics is enriched by an even deeper appreciation of the complexities of achieving self-regulation and of transmitting values from one generation to the next. By showing how the child's vision of his or her father ultimately depends on the child's own ability to discern the family myths that distort perceptions among family members, Lansky demonstrates how the child's early character formation is a product of the total family constellation, not just the nature of the mother-child dyad. He thus redresses the tendency to blame mothers, a blind spot in the field for decades. This book is mandatory reading not only for analysts, individual and family therapists, and developmentalists, but also for sociologists, critics, and lay readers intent on understanding the richly varied ways in which our images of fathers and fathering inspire and inform our social ideals and cultural institutions."

- Stanley Cath, M.D., Boston Psychoanalytic Society and Institute

"In a series of essays both gripping and wise, Lansky identifies the powerful affect of shame as an organizing force in human affaris. He clearly documents the lengths to which people will go to avoid feelings of humiliation and shame. Defenses against these disorganizing emotions create serious problems internally and in family systems. When viewed from this perspective, many puzzling intrapsychic and intimate relationship symptoms - alcohol abuse, suicidal despair, marital conflict, violence, and child abuse - can be decoded and made understandable. The underrecognized problem of failed fathering in our culture is a theme that runs through this book. Lansky describes how fathers who got little from their own fathers are unable to give to their own children; he most poignantly describes how these impaired fathers will do almost anything to avoid the shame and mortification of facing their inability to father their own children."

- James L. Framo, Ph.D., United States International University

"Lansy's work is a supremely successful attempt at theoretical and clinical synthesis: he integrates in a series of original essays, which have been gathered into a coherent whole, his clinical experiences as a psychoanalyst and as a family therapist, as a theoretician at home in a number of traditions, and as a practitioner thoroughly familiar with several modalities of treatment. Insightfully drawing on recent findings about the development and nature of affects, he places particular emphasis on integrating modern ideas about the role of shaming and blaming, both intrapsychically and interpersonally. Fathers Who Fail is very highly recommended."

- Leon Wurmser, M.D., New York Freudian Society

Symptom, System, and Personality in Fathers Who Failp. 3
The Paternal Imagop. 17
Shame in the Family Relations of the Borderline Patientp. 37
Blame in the Marital Dyadp. 51
Preoccupation as a Mode of Pathologic Distance Regulationp. 77
The Explanation of Impulsive Actionp. 93
The Borderline Father: Reconstructions of Young Adulthoodp. 113
The Psychiatrically Hospitalized Fatherp. 131
Violence, Shame, and the Familyp. 144
Shame and Domestic Violencep. 158
Murder of a Spouse: A Family Systems Viewpointp. 180
Shame and the Problem of Suicide: A Family Systems Perspectivep. 195
Escalation of Trauma in the Family of the Patient with Organic Brain Diseasep. 210
Posttraumatic Nightmares and the Familyp. 223
Conflict and Resistance in the Treatment of Psychiatrically Hospitalized Fathersp. 237
Referencesp. 247
Indexp. 253
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ISBN: 9780881631050
ISBN-10: 0881631051
Audience: Professional
Format: Hardcover
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 270
Published: 1st October 1992
Publisher: Taylor & Francis Ltd
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 22.9 x 15.2  x 2.54
Weight (kg): 0.57
Edition Number: 1