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Falling in Love : Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose - Ayala Malach-Pines

Falling in Love

Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose

Hardcover Published: 1st August 1999
ISBN: 9780415920469
Number Of Pages: 310

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How mystical is love really? Sought after, capable of sending us to emotional extremes from abysmal misery to irrepressible joy, love is often perceived as a force beyond mortal control. Is it as dumb, blind or arbitrary as we often think, and are we subject to its whims? Or do we actually choose carefully, if not always wisely, the partners we do?
Falling in Love shows us that we both consciously and unconsciously select those with whom we have intimate relationships. Written by a renowned psychologist and couple's therapist, this fascinating, engaging mix of psychological research and clinical anecdotes discusses how each of us can, through successful intimate partnerships, help ourselves to grow as individuals. Each chapter concludes with suggestions for those seeking love, and explains how self-knowledge is the foundation to a healthy, satisfying relationship.

Industry Reviews

'Ayala Pines takes aim and sends her Cupid's arrow straight at us with this brilliant work, and we cannot help but fall in love with it and what it teaches us about love in our lives. Both a clinical tour de force and a rich practical guide.' - Dale Larson, Ph.D., author of The Helper's Journey and Associate Professor and Director at the Counseling Psychology Program, Santa Clara University, USA 'A couples' therapist's clinical look at how and why we fall in love removes some of the mystery from that most magical of human experiences...Not a how-to guide for the lovelorn but a serious, research-oriented work of special interest to those involved in couples' therapy.' - Kirkus Reviews 'If you expect no definitive answers on either the conscious or unconscious nature of falling in love and making it work, if you are looking for a plausible excuse to examine the intimate relationships of those around you and, perhaps, your own, if you're interested in relationships in the abstract, whether 'true' in its conclusions or not, FALLING IN LOVE is a fascinating book on an ever engrossing topic.' - Isadora Alman, San Francisco Bay Guardian

About Falling in Love and About this Book
Conscious Romantic Choices, Increasing the Likelihood of Falling in Love
Proximity, the Hidden Matchmaker
Adrenalin, The Elixir of Love
Beauty and Character
Birds of a Feather or Opposites Attract? Reciprocating Love and Satisfying Needs, We Love Those Who Love Us
The Course of Romantic Love, Falling in Love as a Process
On Men, Women, and Love, The Role of Status and Beauty
Unconscious Romantic Choices, Our Romantic Attraction Code
Openness to Love
The Son Falls in Love with "Mother," The Daughter with "Father". The Unconscious Romantic Image
Four Stories
Romantic Love in Long Term Relationships
How to Turn Love Problems into Opportunities for Growth
Love and Work: The Relationships Between their Unconscious Choices
Romantic Choices Workshops
Analyzing a Romantic Relationship
Research Findings
About the Author
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ISBN: 9780415920469
ISBN-10: 0415920469
Audience: Tertiary; University or College
Format: Hardcover
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 310
Published: 1st August 1999
Country of Publication: GB
Dimensions (cm): 23.5 x 16.49  x 2.59
Weight (kg): 0.64
Edition Number: 1