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Emotional Vampires : Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry - Albert J. Bernstein

Emotional Vampires

Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry

Paperback Published: 25th May 2012
ISBN: 9780071790956
Number Of Pages: 304

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Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type--antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids--and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one. In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.

About the Author

Albert J. Bernstein, Ph. D., is a clinical psychologist, speaker, columnist, and business consultant. Dr. Bernstein is also the author of Dinosaur Brains, Neanderthals at Work, and Sacred Bull.

Acknowledgmentsp. xi
Children of the Nightp. 1
Who Are These Emotional Vampires?
Are They Really Vampires?p. 2
Antisocial Vampiresp. 4
Histrionic Vampiresp. 5
Narcissistic Vampiresp. 5
Obsessive-Compulsive Vampiresp. 6
Paranoid Vampiresp. 7
Maturity and Mental Healthp. 9
If Emotional Vampires Are Children, What Does It Take to Be a Grown-Up?
What Causes People to Become Emotional Vampires?p. 11
Immaturity Versus Evilp. 11
The Everybody and Nobody Rulep. 12
What If You See Yourself?p. 12
The Way of Vampiresp. 15
How Emotional Vampires Are Different from and More Dangerous than Other Annoying People
Vampires Are Differentp. 16
Vampires Prey on Humansp. 17
Vampires Can't See Themselves in a Mirrorp. 19
Vampires Are More Powerful in the Darkp. 20
Protecting Yourself from Vampiresp. 20
Lovable Roguesp. 21
The Antisocial Types
The Ferrari-Toyota Dilemmap. 22
How to Recognize an Antisocial Vampirep. 23
The Antisocial Emotional Vampire Checklist: Listening to the Call of the Wildp. 24
What the Questions Measurep. 25
Vampire Daredevilsp. 27
Sexy, Thrilling, and Definitely Bad for Your Health
The Physiology of Excitementp. 27
Daredevil Hypnosisp. 28
Female Daredevilsp. 29
How Vampires Keep You Coming Back for Morep. 30
10 Ways to Protect Yourself from Daredevilsp. 31
Daredevils in Your Lifep. 39
Daredevil Lovers and Spouses
The Action Herop. 39
The Liarp. 42
The Unfaithful Loverp. 43
Daredevil Ex-Husbandp. 44
Daredevil Dadsp. 47
Daredevil Adult Childrenp. 50
Antisocial Used Car Salesmenp. 53
Slicker than Cheap Polyester, So Always Remember to Read the Fine Print
Used Car Hypnosisp. 55
Is Honesty Really the Best Policy?p. 61
Vampire Bulliesp. 63
Big, Scary, Powerful, and Stupid as the Guys Who Used to Take Lunch Money
The Instinct for Aggressionp. 63
Vampire Bully Hypnosisp. 65
What to Do About Bulliesp. 65
How to Do the Unexpectedp. 67
Antisocial Used Car Salesmen and Bullies in Your Lifep. 75
Living with a Liarp. 75
Bullies in Your Lifep. 80
Living in a Minefieldp. 80
Therapy for Antisocial Vampiresp. 89
The Goalp. 89
Anger Control Treatmentp. 90
Treatment for Addictionp. 90
Self-Helpp. 91
What Will Hurtp. 92
Show Business, Vampire Stylep. 93
The Histrionic Types
What It's Like to Be Histrionicp. 94
The Histrionic Dilemmap. 95
What the Questions Measurep. 95
The Histrionic Vampire Checklist: Living a Soap Operap. 96
How to Protect Yourself from Histrionic Vampiresp. 99
Vampires Who Ham It Upp. 101
Whether It's Sex, Sickness, or Secrets of Success, There's Only One Show Business
Ham-It-Up Hypnosisp. 103
Writing a Safe Role for Yourselfp. 105
Illness as Theaterp. 105
Celebrities, Fans, and Wannabesp. 106
Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Histrionic Hamsp. 106
Passive-Aggressive Vampiresp. 111
Deliver Us from Ghoulies and Ghosties and People Who Are Only Trying to Help
Giving Until It Hurtsp. 115
Illness as Communicationp. 115
Passive-Aggressive Hypnosisp. 120
The High-Self-Esteem Syndromep. 120
Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Passive-Aggressive Histrionicsp. 121
Histrionics in Your Lifep. 127
Histrionic Martial Artsp. 127
My Mother, the Drama Queenp. 128
The Queen of Gossipp. 129
Your Depressed Sisterp. 130
Male Histrionicsp. 134
Therapy for Histrionic Vampiresp. 137
The Goalp. 137
Professional Helpp. 138
Self-Helpp. 138
What Will Hurtp. 140
Big Egos, Small Everywhere Elsep. 141
The Narcissistic Types
What It's Like to Be Narcissisticp. 142
The Narcissistic Dilemmap. 143
Narcissism and Self-Esteemp. 144
What the Questions Measurep. 144
The Narcissistic Vampire Checklist: Identifying the Self-Styled Smartest, Most Talented, All-Around Best People in the Worldp. 145
Vampires Who Are Legends in Their Own Mindsp. 151
With Talent Like Theirs, Who Needs Performance?
How Narcissistic Legends Prevent Themselves from Succeedingp. 153
Narcissistic Legend Hypnosisp. 155
How to Socialize Narcissistic Legendsp. 158
Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Legends in Their Own Mindsp. 159
Vampire Superstarsp. 165
You've Got to Love These Guys! Worship Them, Actually
Dealing with Superstars' Insatiable Needsp. 166
Superstar Hypnosisp. 169
Sex and the Superstarp. 169
Superstar Depression and Angerp. 171
Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Superstarsp. 173
Narcissists in Your Lifep. 179
Pundits from Hellp. 180
Tiger Momp. 182
Season's Greetings from the Narcissist in Your Lifep. 184
Therapy for Narcissistic Vampiresp. 187
The Goalp. 187
Professional Helpp. 187
Self-Helpp. 187
What Will Hurtp. 189
Too Much of a Good Thingp. 191
The Obsessive-Compulsive Types
What It's Like to Be Obsessive-Compulsivep. 192
How Much Is Too Much?p. 193
Punishment, Where Good and Evil Meetp. 193
What the Questions Measurep. 194
The Obsessive-Compulsive Vampire Checklist: Vice Masquerading as Virtuep. 195
The Obsessive-Compulsive Dilemmap. 197
Vampire Perfectionists and Puritansp. 199
Can the Undead Be Anal-Retentive?
Why Do They Always Seem Angry?p. 200
Obsessive-Compulsive Hypnosisp. 200
Product Versus Processp. 201
Demanding Prioritiesp. 202
Perfectionists How the Imperfect Can Deal with Perfectionistsp. 205
Puritansp. 206
Meet Your Inner Teenagerp. 207
Nine Ways to Protect Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsives: What to Do When the Good Guys Are After Youp. 210
Obsessive-Compulsives in Your Lifep. 215
Control Freakp. 215
Control Freak Parentsp. 218
Married to a Control Freakp. 218
Therapy for Obsessive-Compulsive Vampiresp. 223
The Goalp. 223
Professional Helpp. 223
What Will Hurtp. 225
Seeing Things That Others Can'tp. 227
The Paranoid Types
Paranoid Purityp. 228
What It's Like to Be Paranoidp. 229
The Paranoid Emotional Vampire Checklist: Next Stop, the Twilight Zonep. 230
What the Questions Measurep. 231
Vampire Visionaries and Green-Eyed Monstersp. 235
Inspiration Always Involves Blowing Things out of Proportion
The Paranoid Questp. 235
Paranoid Hypnosisp. 236
Visionariesp. 236
How to Recognize Crazy Ideasp. 238
Paranoids and Religionp. 241
Green-Eyed Monstersp. 241
The Nine Elements of Vampire-Fighting Strategy: How to Give Paranoids a Glimpse of Realityp. 244
Therapy for Paranoid Vampiresp. 249
The Goalp. 249
Professional Helpp. 249
Self-Helpp. 250
What Will Hurtp. 250
Sunrise at Dracula's Castlep. 251
Indexp. 253
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ISBN: 9780071790956
ISBN-10: 0071790950
Series: NTC Self-Help
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 304
Published: 25th May 2012
Publisher: McGraw-Hill Education - Europe
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 23.0 x 15.0  x 1.0
Weight (kg): 0.36
Edition Number: 2
Edition Type: Revised