Why is there so much conflict around sexuality? How does a relationship that began with joy end up feeling like a chore? Why is attraction so seldom reciprocated? And what, if anything, does online dating have to do with love? In The Authentic Lover, you will discover the four great enemies of love: violence, pettiness, vanity, and our reproductive agenda.
If we can overcome these formidable enemies, nothing more keeps us from the vast experience of unconditional love. Starting from the raw data of evolutionary psychology and other modern research, this book takes us on a journey through traditional wisdom, Rumi's poetry, samurai culture, and the dry humor that comes from firsthand experience. A picture emerges both of the pitfalls we all face as humans, and of the corresponding opportunities we always have at hand, but rarely tap into. The Authentic Lover shows a path for us to realize our birthright to love in a full and spontaneous way, free of unwanted ancestral, cultural, and emotional baggage.
Readers will gain a deeper understanding of their own divinity, the sacredness of their interpersonal connections, and the depth of the human soul as they begin to catch a vision of how to transcend the ordinary - the violence, pettiness, vanity, and agendas that limit us - to reach toward the ineffable and glorious. This is a truly wise and beautiful book, a gentle, mindful, essential read for anyone seeking closer, deeper, more meaningful relationships. - Manhattan Book Review
This genuinely helpful relationship book reads smoothly and quickly, propelled by often graceful prose… Powerful, persuasive encouragement toward better and wiser loving. — Kirkus Reviews