Pregnancy after prenatal or infant loss can be a lonely and frightening time, but through stories of both pain and healing, the authors show how to navigate the exciting but choppy waters of a subsequent pregnancy.
The loss of a pregnancy or newborn infant changes the meaning of pregnancy, birth, and parenting forever. Increased parental fear and anxiety, and continuing grief for the deceased baby, can impact subsequent pregnancies in unexpected ways. Parents who are unsupported in pregnancy after loss are may be more at risk of experiencing anxiety, depression, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and difficulty in attaching to a new baby.
Different Baby Different Story explores the range of emotions, thoughts, and physical experiences of parents who have gone on to subsequent pregnancies. Including stories from mothers, fathers, other children, and extended family members, this poignant and moving work will help readers through their own feelings and give voice to those who may have felt unheard or unsupported in the past. With practical advice on self-advocacy, the book helps expectant parents gain insights as to how others learned to work with health care professionals, mental health professionals, and their own families and friends and coworkers. For expectant mothers, their partners, their families and their friends, this work supports the range of experiences and encourages readers on a path to healing.
Industry Reviews
Nurses Margaret Murphy, Jane Warland, and Lynnda Parker team up with O'Leary, a psychologist, to provide a "journey from loss to hope" in this useful guide for those trying to get pregnant after losing a baby. Balancing communication, hope, and grief, they write, will successfully lead a couple through mourning and new pregnancy . . . The authors' strength is in their straightforward and comforting tone--"be reassured that, given your history, this is normal behavior"--which will be a balm to grieving readers. This compassionate book will help expectant parents find joy and healing after tragic loss.--Publishers Weekly This gem of a book is a supportive and empathic book for parents who are grieving the loss of a baby during pregnancy or after birth. Once they find themselves pregnant again, their grief often reappears in unexpectedly difficult ways. They will benefit from a knowledgeable, compassionate guide who is both realistic and reassuring as they deal with the unique challenges that they face. The authors have the rare combination of academic expertise and experience in supporting parents through the troubling and uncertain journey of pregnancy and infant care after the tragedy of their previous child's death. Throughout the book, various manifestations of parents' grief are explained, followed by illustrative examples in the words of parents who describe their experiences in their own poignant words. This format helps readers feel they are not alone, and to make healthcare decisions that will be right for them. I recommend this book for parents going through pregnancy after a loss, but also their loved ones and the health care professionals who care for them.--Penny Simkin, PT, childbirth educator, and author or coauthor of books for parents and professionals on pregnancy and birth Authors O'Leary, Murphy, Warland, and Parker are internationally known and respected for their lifetime devotion to pregnancy after loss issues. In this long awaited new release, they have brilliantly interlaced research on this crucial topic with poignant bereaved parents' sentiments on their rainbow baby journey! This book will be a sought out read for those beginning their quest for a subsequent baby after loss and the professionals who care for them. Always remember bereaved parents are the best teachers!--Cathi Lammert, RN, CPLC, Executive Director of Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc. 1992-2013, Founding Co-President of Pregnancy Loss and Infant Death Alliance (PLIDA) This book should be considered to be essential reading for anyone who is pregnant after a loss. It looks at this unique experience of managing the (normal) anxiety that goes into a subsequent pregnancy after loss using the voices of parents who have experienced such losses. Additionally, this book looks beyond pregnancy and at delivery, postpartum and parenting from both parent's perspectives. The author's expertise in working with families that find themselves in the unenviable position of losing a baby weave in individual stories, useful advice and best practices with sensitivity and an ease in reading it. It's a book that [...] can easily be picked up and chapters read as they are relevant.--Julie Bindeman, Psy-D, Co-Director of Integrative Therapy of Greater Washington
