Dating the Second Time Around is the essential one-stop guide to re-entering the dating scene. Packed with invaluable advice, including self-analysis quizzes, compatibility tests, guidance on how to create the perfect online profile and encouraging success stories, this book is an indispensable tool to make dating second time around work for you.
Published in association with eHarmony, one of the fastest growing online dating organisations in Australia
Entering the dating arena the second time around can be daunting, difficult and fraught with pitfalls. This book arms you with the tools you need to surmount the particular challenges of dating again after the end of a long-term relationship.
Chapter 1 includes an insightful quiz that will help you to turn the mirror on yourself and consider what great qualities you have to bring to a new relationship. Chapter 2 explores the notion of compatibility, while Chapter 3 encourages you to pin down exactly what it is you want in a partner. Chapter 4 provides expert advice on where to meet people, whether it be through friends and acquaintances, at work, through leisure activities or online. It even gives pointers on how to create a successful online profile.
Do's and don'ts of dating are explored in Chapter 5, and Chapters 6-9 detail how to make a relationship work, from the early weeks through to marriage and parenthood. Lastly, Chapter 10 signs off with some essential nuggets of wisdom from the eHarmony experts on how to keep your relationship fresh.
About the Author
Dr Gian Gonzaga, Ph.D, is an expert in the field of relationships, emotions and health psychology. In his work for eHarmony, Dr Gonzaga is researching initial attraction and directing one of the largest and most comprehensive studies of marriage to date. Prior to joining eHarmony Dr Gonzaga worked with world-renowned marriage researcher Dr Thomas Bradbury at the University of California, Los Angeles. There he researched the factors that led to marital success as part of an 11-year study of married couples. He has taught, presented and published extensively on topics relating to relationships, love and health, and has received numerous honours and awards for his work, including the prestigious National Science foundation minority Predoctoral Fellowship and Psi Chi National Undergraduate Research Competition.
INTRODUCTION; CHAPTER ONE: LOOKING AT YOU
Turn the mirror on yourself: what great qualities do you have to bring to a relationship? Why have your relationships not worked in the past? Are you ready to move on from your last relationship? Which areas of yourself can you work on before you start dating?;
CHAPTER TWO: COMPATIBILITY EXPLAINED
You may have thought 'chemistry' was the most important thing, but what does it really mean? What are the qualities that indicate true compatibility?;
CHAPTER THREE: WHAT DO YOU WANT IN A PARTNER?
Create a new shopping list with 'must haves' and 'can't stands'. Working out what is important to you, now and in the future;
CHAPTER FOUR: LOOKING FOR THAT CERTAIN SOMEONE
Where to look: through friends and acquaintances, work, leisure activities, online, small ads, dating agencies, speed-dating. Drafting your profile for an agency or online site. Making the first approaches. A note on security. How to deal with rejection;
CHAPTER FIVE: DOS AND DON'TS ON A FIRST DATE
Do: keep it light, be interested in them, use your conversation skills, listen to your instincts and be honest. Don't: discuss marriage or your sexual preferences;
CHAPTER SIX: THE EARLY WEEKS
How to tell whether they have the core traits and values you're looking for without subjecting them to the third degree. Check that you aren't falling into old relationship patterns. Being realistic if it doesn't work out;
CHAPTER SEVEN: MAKING IT WORK
Bonding experiences. Conflict resolution. Dealing with annoying habits/accepting what you can't change. Support in bad times. Celebrating positive events. Expressing gratitude;
CHAPTER EIGHT: SPECIAL CHALLENGES THE SECOND TIME AROUND
Habits can be more set as you get older. Meeting children from previous relationships and possibly creating a blended family. Difficult exes. Meshing social networks. Meeting your families. Geography - when you both have a home already, where do you stay? Money - should you keep it separate? Dealing with illness or depression;
CHAPTER NINE: PREPARING FOR COMMITMENT
What questions should you ask before you move in with someone, buy a house together or get married? How should you prepare for parenthood?;
CHAPTER TEN: KEEPING IT FRESH AND FUN
Test your relationship to see if it still checks all the boxes. Wisdom from the eHarmony labs on maintaining respect for and interest in your partner. Keep building your relationship skills; eHarmony Company Overview; Acknowledgements; Index.
Number Of Pages: 224
Published: 1st January 2010
Country of Publication: GB
Dimensions (cm): 19.7 x 12.9
Weight (kg): 0.21
Edition Number: 1