{"id":82323,"date":"2018-08-10T17:29:28","date_gmt":"2018-08-10T06:29:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.booktopia.com.au\/?p=82323"},"modified":"2018-08-10T17:51:38","modified_gmt":"2018-08-10T06:51:38","slug":"jill-stark-on-happy-never-after","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/2018\/08\/10\/jill-stark-on-happy-never-after\/","title":{"rendered":"Jill Stark discusses Happy Never After"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Do you believe in happily ever afters? You wouldn&#8217;t be the first. Once upon a time, Jill Stark herself fell prey to believing in the notion of having it all. She was living the dream. She had the job, the guy and her first book had just become a bestseller. She had her fairytale. Then it all fell apart.<\/p>\n<p>Enter\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/happy-never-after-jill-stark\/prod9781925713107.html?utm_source=booktopian_blog&amp;utm_medium=booktopian&amp;utm_campaign=jill_stark\"><em>Happy Never After<\/em><\/a>, Jill Stark&#8217;s war-cry against this notion of the fairytale ending.<\/p>\n<p><b><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/happy-never-after-jill-stark\/prod9781925713107.html?utm_source=booktopian_blog&amp;utm_medium=booktopian&amp;utm_campaign=jill_stark\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-82324 size-full aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.booktopia.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/665jill2.png\" alt=\"jill stark\" width=\"665\" height=\"280\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Is\u00a0&#8216;happy ever after&#8217; a thing we can ever actually achieve, or is it an impossible goal? Jill Stark started to question this after feeling as though the relentless pursuit of happiness was\u00a0making her miserable.\u00a0 She had everything she wanted, and yet she still wasn&#8217;t happy.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">&#8220;I had it all\u2026 everything had come together, then slowly things started to unravel.&#8221; &#8211; Jill Stark<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>But from the epic unravelling of her life came\u00a0<em>Happy Never After\u00a0<\/em>&#8211; a raw, funny and uplifting exploration of our age of anxiety. Like many of us, Stark lives in a world of opportunity, choice and comfort. Yet depression, anxiety and stress\u00a0are constant bedfellows.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;<span class=\"s1\">If you look at it from a wider cultural perspective, our entire consumerist western culture is based on that premise that we are not enough,&#8221; says Stark\u00a0. &#8220;But if you buy this car or if you have enough Facebook friends, then you might just be enough &#8230; but really we\u2019re the only ones that can fill that gap.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;<span class=\"s1\">It\u2019s sort of like we\u2019re in a Truman-style show version of our lives,&#8221; Stark\u00a0continues. &#8220;Everyone knows the plot is flimsy and the set is paper thin but we\u2019re all playing along because we don\u2019t want to break that fairytale spell.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>The mantra here is this: t<span class=\"s1\">here is no quick fix or fast route to happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Jill Stark flips the script in Happy Never After\" width=\"1250\" height=\"703\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/6CZYta_fN9M?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Cheerful, we know. But don&#8217;t despair! Note the tagline of Stark&#8217;s book is <em>&#8216;Why the happiness fairytale is driving us mad (and how I flipped the script)&#8217;. <\/em>According to Stark, if\u00a0you\u00a0want to achieve real happiness then perhaps the trick lies in\u00a0focusing on the journey to your goal rather than the goal itself.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;<span class=\"s1\">I think it\u2019s that part of our culture where we are taught to plan for the wedding and not the marriage. We plan for the birth but not the baby. We plan for buying the home but not servicing the mortgage \u2026 it\u2019s about the journey not the destination. That\u2019s what I\u2019ve discovered.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>In her spare time, Jill Stark is an award-winning journalist and bestselling author of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/high-sobriety-jill-stark\/prod9781922070227.html?utm_source=booktopian_blog&amp;utm_medium=booktopian&amp;utm_campaign=jill_stark\"><em>High Sobriety: my year without booze<\/em><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It was an absolute pleasure to pull at the thread of\u00a0<em>Happy Never After<\/em> and see what unraveled from the pages. Listen to our full interview with Jill Stark below:<\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"https:\/\/w.soundcloud.com\/player\/?url=https%3A\/\/api.soundcloud.com\/tracks\/470105217&amp;color=%23ff5500&amp;auto_play=false&amp;hide_related=false&amp;show_comments=true&amp;show_user=true&amp;show_reposts=false&amp;show_teaser=true&amp;visual=true\" width=\"100%\" height=\"300\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you believe in happily ever afters? You wouldn&#8217;t be the first. Once upon a time, Jill Stark herself fell prey to believing in the notion of having it all. She was living the dream. She had the job, the guy and her first book had just become a bestseller. She had her fairytale. Then it all fell apart. Enter\u00a0Happy Never After, Jill Stark&#8217;s war-cry against this notion of the fairytale ending. Is\u00a0&#8216;happy ever after&#8217; a thing we can ever actually achieve, or is it an impossible goal? Jill Stark started to question this after feeling as though the relentless pursuit of happiness was\u00a0making her miserable.\u00a0 She had everything she wanted, and yet she still wasn&#8217;t happy. &#8220;I had it all\u2026 everything had come together, then slowly things started to unravel.&#8221; &#8211; Jill Stark But from the epic unravelling of her life came\u00a0Happy Never After\u00a0&#8211; a raw, funny and uplifting exploration of our age of anxiety. Like many of us, Stark lives in a world of opportunity, choice and comfort. Yet depression, anxiety and stress\u00a0are constant bedfellows. &#8220;If you look at it from a wider cultural perspective, our entire consumerist western culture is based on that premise that we are&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":82339,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":""},"categories":[6676],"tags":[741,978,993,9084,1007,9086,2615,9085,7966,4434],"acf":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/Jill-Stark-Social.png","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82323"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/24"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82323"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82323\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":82338,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82323\/revisions\/82338"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82339"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82323"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82323"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82323"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}