{"id":76394,"date":"2017-09-14T13:54:53","date_gmt":"2017-09-14T02:54:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.booktopia.com.au\/?p=76394"},"modified":"2017-09-14T13:54:53","modified_gmt":"2017-09-14T02:54:53","slug":"five-things-wish-tell-unpublished-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/2017\/09\/14\/five-things-wish-tell-unpublished-self\/","title":{"rendered":"Five Things I Wish I Could Tell My Unpublished Self"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/war-flower-mary-anne-o-connor\/prod9781489241146.html\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-76182\" title=\"War Flower by Mary-Anne O'Connor\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.booktopia.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/1261_HAR-Facebook-Ads-2_v2.jpg\" alt=\"War Flower by Mary-Anne O'Connor\" width=\"667\" height=\"349\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Set against the colourful backdrop of a swinging sixties Sydney and the brutality of the Vietnam War, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/war-flower-mary-anne-o-connor\/prod9781489241146.html\"><em>War Flower<\/em><\/a> by Mary-Anne O&#8217;Connor follows the journey of six young people through their lives in a turbulent era, and asks &#8211; can love still prevail when horror becomes almost too much to bear?<\/p>\n<p><em>War Flower<\/em> is Mary-Anne O&#8217;Connor&#8217;s third book, following <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/gallipoli-street-mary-anne-o-connor\/prod9781489227454.html\">Gallipoli Street<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/worth-fighting-for-mary-anne-o-connor\/prod9781489210555.html\">Worth Fighting For<\/a><\/em>. She now reveals the five things she wishes she could tell her unpublished self.<\/p>\n<p><strong>By Mary-Anne O\u2019Connor<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Looking back at those angst-ridden years when I was trying to get published, I wonder why I didn\u2019t end up with permanent scarring from banging my head on the desk. Rejection is a nasty beast and anyone who says otherwise is far too emotionally mature to read on. This post is purely for those of you who have wailed, gnashed teeth and howled at the letter box in frustration, in the hope that you may take some comfort in the following advice from someone who knows exactly how you feel, yet survived to write another day. So, without further ado and in true Tardis style, here we go:<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. You\u2019re allowed to cry.<\/strong><br \/>\nI know you think that\u2019s a defeatist reaction and you don\u2019t want to give your rejecter the satisfaction, but they will never know. Go on, let all that muck out until your nose is red and bulbous because it <em>does<\/em> make you feel better. Rip up that politely worded parchment of devastation while you\u2019re at it. No-one\u2019s around and the dog will get over the trauma of witnessing your tantrum, I promise. Eventually.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Don\u2019t try to memorise their name.<\/strong><br \/>\nYou won\u2019t remember who they are and walk up to them at the ABIAs holding a trophy one day to wave it in their shocked faces. (Incidentally, they wouldn\u2019t remember you if you did.) As soon as you get published all rejecter nemeses are wiped from memory, mostly because you don\u2019t have the brain hard-drive space available anymore now that you\u2019re going through something called a \u2018professional edit\u2019, but more on that later. I don\u2019t want to scare you off when you\u2019re only at point two.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/war-flower-mary-anne-o-connor\/prod9781489241146.html\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-76395 size-full\" title=\"War Flower by Mary-Anne O'Connor\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.booktopia.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/mary-in-blog.jpg\" alt=\"War Flower by Mary-Anne O'Connor\" width=\"665\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<strong>3. You\u2019re not going to give up.<\/strong><br \/>\nI know you blubbered that mid-howl but you don\u2019t really mean it. You\u2019ve been bitten by the authordom vampire and writing is forever in your blood. Expect a nocturnal existence and an aversion to mirrors for many years to come.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4. You <em>will<\/em> get published.<\/strong><br \/>\nI know some of you are reading this thinking <em>that\u2019s all very well and good for Mary-Anne to say because I know it happens in her future<\/em>, BUT the main reason I did get published is because I believed it would happen. I truly, truly did. Some thought me manically deluded at the time but I\u2019ve forgotten who they are, too. Which brings me to the scary news about edits\u2026 I think you can handle it now that you\u2019re graduating to the final point:<\/p>\n<p><strong>5. One day, in your not-too-distant published future, you will face something called a professional edit.<\/strong><br \/>\nThink of it as a mountain, \u2018Mt Ever-Edit\u2019 if you will, and there are a few things you will need to survive this quest, so listen carefully:<\/p>\n<p>a)\u00a0 Sherpas. Husband and children will not be able to carry your emotional baggage alone. This will require girlfriends, multiple ones, to help manage the load.<\/p>\n<p>b)\u00a0 The ability to kill. Some word-babies will need to die along the way. Nothing can be done to save them; you must continue the climb to the summit for the survival of the greater group. It will be reached eventually, I promise, however a few brain cells will be left behind, but in fairness that will be due to point c) \u2026<\/p>\n<p>c)\u00a0 An emergency bottle of red wine or two. For purely medicinal reasons, of course.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Set against the colourful backdrop of a swinging sixties Sydney and the brutality of the Vietnam War, War Flower by Mary-Anne O&#8217;Connor follows the journey of six young people through their lives in a turbulent era, and asks &#8211; can love still prevail when horror becomes almost too much to bear? War Flower is Mary-Anne O&#8217;Connor&#8217;s third book, following Gallipoli Street and Worth Fighting For. She now reveals the five things she wishes she could tell her unpublished self. By Mary-Anne O\u2019Connor Looking back at those angst-ridden years when I was trying to get published, I wonder why I didn\u2019t end up with permanent scarring from banging my head on the desk. Rejection is a nasty beast and anyone who says otherwise is far too emotionally mature to read on. This post is purely for those of you who have wailed, gnashed teeth and howled at the letter box in frustration, in the hope that you may take some comfort in the following advice from someone who knows exactly how you feel, yet survived to write another day. So, without further ado and in true Tardis style, here we go: 1. You\u2019re allowed to cry. 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