{"id":169830,"date":"2022-10-04T08:42:56","date_gmt":"2022-10-03T22:42:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/?p=169830"},"modified":"2022-10-14T12:59:34","modified_gmt":"2022-10-14T02:59:34","slug":"app-dating-like-a-boss-by-life-uncut-hosts-laura-byrne-and-brittany-hockley","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/2022\/10\/04\/app-dating-like-a-boss-by-life-uncut-hosts-laura-byrne-and-brittany-hockley\/","title":{"rendered":"App dating like a boss by Life Uncut hosts Laura Byrne and Brittany Hockley"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"576\" src=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Blog-Banner-7-1024x576.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-169831\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Blog-Banner-7-1024x576.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Blog-Banner-7-300x169.png 300w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Blog-Banner-7-768x432.png 768w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Blog-Banner-7.png 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption>This is an edited extract from We Love Love by Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne. Published by Penguin Random House Australia, RRP 35.00<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Be an active participant.<\/strong> Swipe away and don\u2019t be shy.<\/li><li><strong>Put effort into your profile.<\/strong> No one wants to date a wet cardboard box! Show your personality with a variety of photos that provide an insight into your life. Start with a photo of just yourself (so no one has to try to work out which one you are when confronted with group shot after group shot \u2013 the days of playing \u2018Where\u2019s Wally?\u2019 are in the past), include a full-length photo at least once and then include any other pics you think show off your hobbies and interests. No heavy filters or old photos! And don\u2019t forget to get creative when writing your \u2018About You\u2019 section or filling in the prompts. It is a way to show who you are AND serve them up an opening line on a platter. If you know you\u2019d rather search the world for the best eateries as opposed to travel the world traversing mountains and hiking at sunrise, then do yourself a favour and say that, because let me tell you, no one\u2019s got time for that!<\/li><li><strong>Be honest about what you\u2019re looking for. <\/strong>Don\u2019t say you are looking for a one-night stand if you are looking for a relationship. The truth will come out sooner or later anyway. And just tell someone if you are no longer into them after one date or a few. Do not ghost them \u2013 we all know how shitty that feels.<\/li><li><strong>Make the first move when possible.<\/strong> Grab the bull by the horns and start the conversation! No one wants to waste time \u2013 plus, there is nothing worse than waiting around to see if someone is going to write to you.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text alignwide is-stacked-on-mobile\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"282\" height=\"440\" src=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/brittany.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-169832 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/brittany.png 282w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/brittany-192x300.png 192w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 282px) 100vw, 282px\" \/><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<ul><li><strong>Say something \u2013 anything \u2013 more than \u2018Hey\u2019 to start a conversation. <\/strong>For me, that\u2019s an almost immediate turn-off and, honestly, it\u2019s lazy. Especially if you have put effort into your profile with great photos and conversation-starters \u2013 which you should have, because I literally just told you to, so you would expect more than just a \u2018Hey\u2019, am I right?! So go the extra mile and reference something in their bio so they know you have actually read it. Personalise it and make it really unique, which will help get their attention, too.<\/li><li><\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><strong>Use their name the first time you write to them and comment on something they have posted about.<\/strong> This helps them to feel seen and separates you from the rest of the pack. I always notice when someone uses my name. Otherwise, who knows whether it\u2019s the old \u2018copy, paste and send out to the masses\u2019 trick?<\/li><li><strong>Try to move the conversation to a call, video chat or in-person meeting after a few days of talking (three is my rule of thumb). <\/strong>Most apps now have a video-call feature so you don\u2019t need to give your number out if you don\u2019t want to. Too much time can be wasted texting without ever really getting a true feel for who someone is or what the chemistry is actually like. I was caught out with this one too many times!<\/li><li><strong>Don\u2019t jump straight to a dinner date for the first date, especially if you have any hesitations.<\/strong> Organise a walk, or a drink, or even a lunch date, which I feel generally end up being more casual and relaxed than dinner dates are. I think a drink is a great go-to because if it\u2019s going well you can throw it out that you could find dinner somewhere and continue the date, but if you\u2019re not feeling it you don\u2019t have to be stuck there through a three-course meal.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/we-love-love-laura-byrne\/book\/9781761044960.html\">We Love Love<\/a> by Laura Byrne and Brittany Hockley (Penguin Random House Australia) is out on the 5th of October.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"536\" src=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/social-1200-nologo-comp-1024x536.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-169844\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/social-1200-nologo-comp-1024x536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/social-1200-nologo-comp-300x157.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/social-1200-nologo-comp-768x402.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/social-1200-nologo-comp.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><figcaption>The festival of new books! Celebrating the best of recently released and upcoming titles.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Order any title featured in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/booktoberfest\/promo100.html\">Booktoberfest<\/a> for your chance to win a year&#8217;s worth of books. *Ts &amp; Cs apply.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Laura Byrne and Brittany Hockley, hosts of the Life Uncut podcast, share their top tips for dating apps!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12,"featured_media":169831,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":""},"categories":[53,73],"tags":[15215,15130,15214,15212,4212],"acf":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/09\/Blog-Banner-7.png","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/169830"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/12"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=169830"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/169830\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":170135,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/169830\/revisions\/170135"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/169831"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=169830"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=169830"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.booktopia.com.au\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=169830"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}