Like a lot of men, Jesse Fink never thought it would happen to him. But it did. His wife of 10 years and mother of his child walked out on him and into the arms of another man.
In that moment he lost his best friend, his soul mate, his family, his identity.
LAID BARE is his brutally honest account of one man’s emotional and mental oblivion after separation and divorce.
Jesse’s search for love and pleasure saw him jump headlong into the freewheeling and sometimes dangerous world of online dating.
Below is his tongue-in-cheek guide to the books you do and the books you don’t want to put in your dating profile…
Top 5 Books I’d Like To See On
A Woman’s Dating Profile
1. The Unbearable Lightness of Being
by Milan Kundera
Suggests sensuality is important to her. Extra props if she has a bowler hat.
2. The Great Railway Bazaar
by Paul Theroux
If she’s into India, I’m sold.
by Saul Bellow
‘“If I am out of my mind, it’s all right with me,” thought Moses Herzog.’ I concur. Most of the memorable women I’ve dated do too.
4. The Shock of the New
by Robert Hughes
The greatest art book ever written. Hughes turned me on to art like no one else before or since. If she’s not into art, forget it.
5. Nobody’s Fool
by Richard Russo
My favourite novel. Most people don’t seem to know who Richard Russo is. Which is a minor tragedy.
Top 5 Books I Wouldn’t Want To See On
A Woman’s Dating Profile
1. The Secret
by Rhonda Byrne
The biggest load of simplistic, new-age claptrap ever assembled and printed on a page.
by Gregory David Roberts
A book countless women seem to have by their bedside table but few have finished… with good reason, from what I’ve seen of it.
by Naomi Campbell
Sort of self explanatory, isn’t it?
4. My Booky Wook
by Russell Brand
I want to punch Russell Brand. Cannot for the life of me figure out what his appeal is to some women. He’s so unfunny and irritating I get in a state just thinking about it.
5. He’s Just Not That Into You
by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo
Chances are I won’t be either. Apart from anything else, it’s a monumentally bad book.
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One man’s story of sex, love and other disorders.
Like a lot of men, Jesse Fink never thought it would happen to him.
But it did. His wife of 10 years and mother of his child walked out on him and into the arms of another man.
In that moment he lost his best friend, his soul mate, his family, his identity. His wife’s new lover even got his dog.
What came next was a freefall of the soul that would take him from contemplating cutting his wrists to sleeping with hundreds of women.
LAID BARE is a brutally honest account of one man’s emotional and mental oblivion after separation and divorce.
Jesse’s search for love and pleasure saw him jump headlong into the freewheeling and sometimes dangerous world of online dating. He visited brothels and massage parlours. He crossed the Pacific for doomed affairs. He disastrously moved in sight unseen with his high-school dream girl, a woman he hadn’t spoken to for 25 years but reunited with on Facebook. He flew off to Hollywood to connect with yet another beautiful woman he sparked with online and found himself in the kitchen of the real-life Bridget Jones. And he managed to get his heart broken all over again with a brilliant but turbulent young artist.
With remarkable frankness, Jesse opens up about his complicity in the failure of his marriage, his battles with OCD, his struggles as a single dad, his sex addiction and his desperate desire to find love. He shares it all the good, the bad and the ugly.
His chance at personal salvation finally comes in the unconditional love of his eight-year-old daughter.
This time, if he pays attention, he might just get it right.
Jesse Fink was born in London, England, in 1973 and raised and educated in Sydney, Australia, by his Australian parents. After working as a senior editor in publishing he branched out into print journalism. As deputy editor of Inside Sport magazine he was nominated for a Walkley Award for Coverage of Sport (All Media) in 2003. He has won or been commended for several Australian Sports Commission Media Awards, and has had his feature writing collected in a number of anthologies.
Fink is the author of the critically acclaimed book 15 DAYS IN JUNE: HOW AUSTRALIA BECAME A FOOTBALL NATION, and the Half-Time Orange football (soccer) column, which first appeared on Fox Sports Australia s website soon after the 2006 FIFA World Cup. He has contributed print features to publications such as Inside Sport, Sport & Style, Dazed & Confused, Jakarta Globe, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan and Golf Magazine Australia, and has interviewed the likes of Sir Edmund Hillary, Harry Kewell, Tim Cahill, Mark Viduka, Mohamed bin Hammam and Sam Worthington. He currently contributes a weekly football column to ESPN STAR Sports in Singapore and lives in Sydney.