Keeping a realistic view of ourselves, our partners, and our relationships is the key to creating a marriage that is happy, healthy, and dynamic. Because we all bring generally unrealistic hopes and beliefs into our relationships, this is always easier said than done. Being Happy Being Married helps readers recognize the flaws in their expectations of marriage and of each other. Lee Schnebly helps readers use this knowledge as the first step toward improving communication with our partners, getting our needs met, and solving everyday marital problems.With real-life, often humorous examples, Lee Schnebly provides a balance of professional and personal advice on all the issues that commonly cause couples to clash, from differing sexual needs to contrasting styles of child-rearing. In addition, this experienced marriage counselor has illuminating comments to make about the effect gender differences have on marriages, how we manipulate each other and why it doesn't work, why it is important to distinguish between wants and needs in a marriage, and more. She has much to say on the subject of marrying for the wrong reasons-and staying married for the right ones.