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Longtime Companions : Autobiographies of Gay Male Fidelity - John P. DeCecco

Longtime Companions

Autobiographies of Gay Male Fidelity

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Published: 5th May 1999
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Longtime Companions: Autobiographies of Gay Male Fidelity provides a sophisticated alternative to "anything goes" gay literature. Challenging the stereotype that gay men are incapable of lasting and successful relationships, 15 long-term gay couples share slices of their own lives to give you insight into their present relationships, while some discuss life after their mates have passed on. You will find that their stories offer an inspirational and richly fulfilling alternative to an empty life of promiscuity that lacks true love. Through a treasury of autobiographical essays, Longtime Companions documents how committed gay male unions can be as enduring, nurturing, and diverse as heterosexual marriages and proves that loving commitments and life-sharing are not exclusive to heterosexual unions. A celebration of gay diversity, this book offers you insights from contributors of different ages, professions, geographic locations, and attitudes. You will learn the intimate details of the couples'lives, including: how they met their partners how soon they committed to each other how long the couples have been together--from 14 years to over 50 years their keys to leading successful, happy lives the ways in which their relationships fulfill their personal needs and contribute to community life You will come to realize the true strength of these men's relationships as you share in their struggles within a society that offers them little recognition or support for their successful relationships. Co-editor Alfred Lees explains in the introduction to Longtime Companions, "We've all worked diligently to make our partnerships sound, nurturing, and enduring. We've done this without any social motivation, largely without role models, in the face of 'official'disapproval or contempt. We've told our stories here to refute--by the simple facts of our experience--the grotesque misrepresentation of gays as being incapable of stable, committed relationships." Will add more...Through a treasury of autobiographical essays, Longtime Companions documents how committed gay-male unions can be as enduring, nurturing, and diverse as heterosexual marriages and proves that loving commitment and life-sharing are not exclusive to heterosexual unions. A celebration of gay diversity, contributors vary in age, profession, geographic location, and attitudes. You will learn the intimate details of the couples'lives, including: how they met their partners how soon they committed to each other how they managed to collaborate on successful, fulfilling lives how some have maintained their commitment as part of an open relationship You will come to realize the true strength of these men's relationships as you share in their struggles within a society that offers them little recognition or support for their successful relationships. Co-Author Alfred Lees explains in the Introduction to Longtime Companions, "We've all worked diligently to make our partnerships sound, nurturing, and enduring. We've done this without any social innovation, largely without role models, in the face of 'official" disapproval or contempt. We've told our stories here to refute--by the simple facts of our experience--the grotesque misrepresentation of gays as being incapable of stable, committed relationships."

We're Not Lost, We're Herep. xi
Forewordp. xiii
Acknowledgmentsp. xv
Introductionp. 1
Casting for Couples: The Ones That Got Awayp. 10
Enter: Key West!p. 11
Come to the Cabaretp. 12
Then, a Sour Note (with Chorus)p. 14
The Monogamy Issuep. 17
Just One Thing Morep. 19
Marry Usp. 23
The Joint Accounts
The Ballad of Eddie and Scottp. 27
Park Bench to Foreverp. 41
Surviving the Curep. 41
Corroborative Testimonyp. 45
Loss of Sharing: The Bereavement Continuesp. 51
The Poems
Your Presence in Absentiap. 51
Arriving at Some Endp. 58
Final Actsp. 61
And so to Endurep. 62
Married--with Childrenp. 65
Okinawa Honeymoonp. 69
Across Boundariesp. 77
Growing Up Apartp. 77
Getting Togetherp. 78
A Walk on the Wild Sidep. 79
The Career-Path Yearsp. 80
The Movesp. 81
The Queen Cityp. 82
Lives Long Entwined: Comments (at Forty-Seven Years) on a Committed Relationshipp. 85
Life Doesn't Begin at Forty (but It Starts Getting Better)p. 85
The Stanford Startp. 89
Careers and Financesp. 97
Cultural Pursuits in Tandemp. 101
How Many Corners on a Globe?p. 108
Friends and Social Lifep. 112
Problems? Well, Al's Had Only One (but It's Been a Pip!)p. 117
The Retirement Projectp. 123
Codap. 127
Updatep. 129
Fraternity Brothersp. 143
A Long Road for Soul Matesp. 149
The Rise from Rascalsp. 159
Life in the Hollywood Hillsp. 159
Life As a Charleston Hustlerp. 160
Life Ever Sincep. 162
A Bond Strengthened by Griefp. 169
Opposites Attract: Enduring Clashes in Personality, Generation, and Culturep. 173
Together at the Barsp. 189
Dance to the Musicp. 193
Preludep. 193
The Hesitation Waltzp. 193
Grand Pas de Deuxp. 196
Fleshdancep. 198
Anniversary Waltzp. 201
The Tea Dance from Hellp. 203
The Court Ballp. 204
The Stagestruck Strutp. 205
The Tropical Two-Stepp. 207
The Phoenix Fandangop. 210
The Dance of Deathp. 212
Codap. 217
The Testosterone Tarantellap. 218
Going for the Goldp. 221
Fifty Years Later--The Dinner Party Speechp. 223
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ISBN: 9781560239574
ISBN-10: 1560239573
Audience: General
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number Of Pages: 246
Published: 5th May 1999
Publisher: Routledge
Dimensions (cm): 21.23 x 15.24  x 1.93
Weight (kg): 0.38
Edition Number: 1