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Holding The Man : Popular Penguins : Popular Penguins - Timothy Conigrave

Holding The Man : Popular Penguins

Popular Penguins

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Published: 29th June 2009
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The mid-seventies: at an all-boys Catholic school in Melbourne, Timothy Conigrave falls wildly and sweetly in love with the captain of the football team. So begins a relationship that weathers disapproval, separation and, ultimately death. With honesty and insight Holding the Man explores the highs and lows of any partnership, and the strength of heart both men have to find when they test positive to HIV. This is a book as refreshing and uplifting as it is moving; a funny and sad and celebratory account of growing up gay.

Author Biography

Timothy Conigrave was born in Melbourne in 1959 and educated at Xavier College and Monash University. He trained as an actor at the National Institute of Dramatic Art, graduating in 1984. He appeared in such plays as Brighton Beach Memoirs and As Is with The Fabulous Globos. He initiated the project Soft Targets, seen at Griffin Theatre in 1986. His other plays include Blitz Kids and Thieving Boy. Timothy Conigrave died in October 1994, shortly after completing his book Holding the Man.

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5.0

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    Comments about Holding The Man : Popular Penguins:

    The book was very well written and it's quite large too. Finished it in a few days, it was too good to put down

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    5.0

    Couldn't put it down

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      Comments about Holding The Man : Popular Penguins:

      Absolutely loved this book. I now have loaned it out to friends.

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      4.0

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        Comments about Holding The Man : Popular Penguins:

        Singer Sam Smith tweeted about this movie so I thought I would read the book, wow, amazing, couldn't put it down. Needed tissues ....

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        5.0

        Now this is a real book!

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            An amazing book! Just finished reading this and will for sure read it again. This is by far my favourite book, I cried like a baby towards the last few pages of the book, to the point my eyes where swollen after! The story is amazing. It's taught me how to value ones love.. It's a story about confidence, courage, strength, hope & freedom. It's happy and sad, sad where it breaks your heart. Don't let this discourage you, it's really worth the read. I knew what the ending was going to be like but I could never prepare for it. I'm so glad Tim has shared his journey.

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            5.0

            I Owned Three Copies Of This Book At One Stage!

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              Comments about Holding The Man : Popular Penguins:

              I first read this book in the late 90's, and as someone who finds it difficult to get into books in general. I found this book to be one of the very few books that I have found to be engaging and a great story.
              As it is a memoir, you know that the story will be a bluntly honest and factual account of events, unlike some other "true" stories that were based on a conversation that was overheard at the local sporting club, whilst buying tickets for the meat tray!
              This is an inspiring story which is just as relavant today and tomorrow, as it was when it was written.
              I can't recommend this book enough.

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              4.0

              a good book to read

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              honest and real about the life of gay people who lived in the wakening of the AIDS crisis.

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              5.0

              A New Favourite Book

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                This book is everything you expect it to be and then some. A brutally honest and personal insight into a beautiful and tragic life. I read it all in one sitting – something I hadn't intended to do; it's just a very engaging read. While it is a gay love story and features the HIV/AIDS topic, I believe these associations are limiting as there is a massive amount of content surrounding these topics and supporting the story. It is, ultimately, a story of a life and there is much insight to be gleaned from its pages.

                Aside from what I've tried to convey with the above rambling: it is just a great read an a moving work.

                Anyone who appreciates life, love, or reading should get their hands on a copy of this.

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                Me

                At the end of the sixties the world seemed very exciting for a nine-­year-old. Things were changing at an incredible rate. And most of the changes seemed to be for the better, like the afternoon we all sat in the library watching a man take his first step on the moon of planet Earth. Even schooling was changing. My Grade Four teacher at the state school treated us like adults who were able to think for ourselves. He was open to all forms of learning. My last year at this school was spent drawing, writing poems; building Aboriginal humpies, dams and watercourses. We discussed space travel, pot and why boys should be allowed to have long hair.

                In contrast was Miss O'Leary who gave us Catholic kids our injection of religion, all five of us in a cupboard at the end of the hall. At Christmas she gave each of us a crucifix made of foiled glass. As she handed me mine she said, 'You don't deserve this because you're wicked.'

                She got into my head at the age when I was loading the operating system that forms self-image. Sure, the software was a mix of creativity, sunshine and games with the girls, but I was also becoming a Catholic. And looming large was the awareness that I was about to take a leap into Catholic manhood: an all-boys school, Kostka. Footy, cricket, smelly socks, and Jesuits in cassocks.

                Even though Kostka was at the end of my street, all I knew of it was the high pale-orange brick walls and large copper gates, beyond which I occasionally glimpsed a concrete playground lined with oleanders and yew trees, and a whirlpool of boys in grey uniforms.

                After I'd sat an entrance exam my mother and I were interviewed by the headmaster, who wanted to know whether, since she had married a non-Catholic, her children went to Mass. My mother's face was scrunched up as we walked back to the gates. 'That stuck-up bully sitting in judgement of me! Surely it's obvious that I want my children to be brought up in the Church, or we wouldn't be wasting our money putting you through a Jesuit school.' I found it odd that she was so vulnerable.

                This was to be my first experience of dressing exactly the same as everyone else. The first time I heard 'fuck', 'shit' and 'arsehole'. The first time I had textbooks: the Jacaranda atlas; a catechism full of groovy drawings of doves, wheat and a Jesus who looked like a hippie; my first dictionary, and a book called Roget's Thesaurus with the words 'Find, Seek, Search, Discover' on its cover. Learning at Kostka was going to be a different experience. I spent hours writing my name on the title page of my books, covering them in sweet-smelling soft plastic, filling my drink bottle with orange cordial and putting it in the freezer.

                The first day all the new boys met in the library. The headmaster's secretary drilled us on punctuality and compulsory sport. We were taken to our classrooms where boys were lined up waiting for the door to open. I tried to be inconspicuous, aware that everyone was looking at me and the other two new guys.

                At the front of the line was a good-looking boy wearing sunglasses. From the other boys' gibes I learnt that he had almost poked his eye out in a sailing accident. They didn't bother him. He looked really cool.

                 

                My first year at this school was a big shock. I was keenly aware that these boys had a different life from mine. They were fulfilling expectations that they would be doctors and lawyers. 'Play' for them meant football. What I knew about footy you could have written on a piece of toilet paper. In order to survive I learnt to know which team was on top of the ladder and to say things like: 'carna Saints'. But as for what 'holding the man' meant or which team Jezza played for . . .

                Grade Five Red was in the neglect of Mr Geddes. His idea of teaching was to write on the board 'Page 13, Exercises 4-9' and make us do them in silence. He'd sit on a desk and order one of us to scratch his back. He liked to terrorise us, picking his nose and wiping it on us, knocking our books off the desk, opening someone's bag and eating his lunch.

                One day a boy called Kevin asked to be allowed to go to the toilet. Mr Geddes made him stand on the platform and sing 'Twinkle Twinkle Little Star'. Kevin did so, his legs jiggling in an attempt to stop pissing himself 'Now with actions.' None of us laughed. We were just glad it wasn't us. Kevin did the nursery rhyme with actions and then ran for the door.

                Another time Mr Geddes told us to read a chapter about Cromwell and the Roundheads and left the room. We were doing as we were told when his head suddenly appeared through an open window. He ordered Kevin up on the platform to get the strap.

                'But I wasn't doing anything, sir.'

                'Exactly. You should have been reading about Cromwell and the Roundheads. Get up there before I make it the full six.' Heavy with persecution, Kevin sloped up to the platform and took his punishment.

                The other regular victim was Andy, a milky fat kid with a skin rash and a permanently running nose. Geddes would tease him until he was in tears and then would get us all to sing a version of a folk song: 'Oh Andy, don't you weep, don't you mourn.'

                When the bell went we would tumble out into the playground and rough-house each other, asserting our strength so that we would never become the milky fat kid who was so loathsome.

                ISBN: 9780143202820
                ISBN-10: 0143202820
                Series: Popular Penguins
                Audience: General
                Format: Paperback
                Language: English
                Number Of Pages: 304
                Published: 29th June 2009
                Country of Publication: AU
                Dimensions (cm): 18.2 x 11.5  x 1.9
                Weight (kg): 0.17
                Edition Number: 1